Hanya Opini

LOW SELF ESTEEM AND COMPLEX SUPERIORITY

In my opinion, low self-esteem is a condition where someone has a low level of their confidence. These people usually difficult for socializing. They always thought another people hate them. They focus on not making mistakes in life. They always feel awkward, shy, and sometimes they can’t express themselves when interacting with others.

People with low self-esteem very often feel sad even depression. They always have negative thinking. This feels inclined to be harm especially for themselves. Generally, this feeling caused by some reason and one of them is bullying. People who have been bullied almost of them got low self-esteem.

When they got bullying and then they feel afraid to talk, to interact with other people. People who got bullying they are automatic got low self-esteem feeling. People with this feeling have low socialization. And they always compared themselves with others. After that, they will feel depressed because they demand perfection of themselves.

Most people with this feeling is reserved, people. They almost never talking which is not important. If they want to talk with others they will always think before they talking. They afraid that their words will make others move away from them. They almost never feel free. They always are careful about their attitude.

And next is complex superiority. Complex superiority is one of mental disorder which the patient with complex superiority always wants them self to be perfect. But actually, they just want to cover up their weakness. People with complex superiority they have an arrogant attitude. And they always want to look perfect in front of other people.

Actually, people with complex superiority they hide their inferiority feeling. For example, they always want to try to take control of a conversation on the discussion. However, in fact, they tortured with their weakness in physically or mentally because being ignored by other people around. In many ways, they try to get another people attention. So, they will get praised by other people.

People with complex superiority really want to get recognition from people around. For example, someone who pretends to be rich, smart, pretty, and many more. Actually, they not like that. It proves that they are already dishonest with themselves not only with other people. In other words they as wearing a ‘mask’.

That people do that thing because they don’t want to be underestimated by others. But indeed, not necessarily other people underestimate them. And also they do that sometimes because they don’t want to lose their friends. They always want to be together with ‘famous’ people so they will look like that people. Even though sometimes it will hurt themselves.

People with complex superiority didn’t care about themselves. They never be themselves, they always want to look like another people. They always thought that others are better than themselves. Sometimes they forget who they are. They too busy to be another people.  

And now I want to describe who is myself. Actually, I am lazy for socializing with others. Because I think it’s enough only with my friends. I don’t like socialize with new people. Even though, I know that, if I socialize with others, there is so much advantage that I will get.

But, when I want to try to interact with others, I always think a lot about what the reaction of them.  And in the end, I canceled to talk with others. However, when in a public place, if there is something’s wrong, I’m not shy to speak to them. As well as when there is a family event, I have to take so much time to adapt to my family (my niece/cousins). I don’t know why it really hard for me to start a conversation with other people.

But, when I’m around my friends of course who I met them every day, I have an open feeling. Shy, sad, lazy to socialize, every bad feeling is gone when I’m with my friends. Actually, I don’t know which part I am. Sometimes I feel I am the people with low self-esteem and sometimes complex superiority. If I was around my friends, I will have a little complex superiority feeling.

I always felt proud when I’m around my friends. I proud when I'd be friends with smart people. Because, I think when I’m around them, my self-esteem will rise. But I think this feeling is not to make me feel harm. Because, when I am around with smart people, I will be motivated by them.

However, sometimes when I’m around them I will get low self-esteem feeling too. I will be motivated by them, but when I was failed, I will blame myself. I will feel sad, and I feel like my self-esteem decreases. But it didn’t last long. I’m not easy to give up.

I have this two feeling, low self-esteem, and complex superiority. But two of that not too disturbing myself. Because I still can control myself. I never let myself being arrogant or being sad too long. When we always remember there is God around us, we will realize that there is nobody is perfect.

So, I think, we can still control our self. When we feel low self-esteem, we just have to believe that we still have God, we still have our family which they love us. And, actually our self. When we love our self, we will not let other people hurt us. And automatically we will be respected by others.

And, when we have complex superiority, we have to remember that everyone has their weakness and advantages of each. Behind their wealth, beauty, intelligence, and etc, they still have a weakness. We just have to be our self. Always think about our self before we see others.

So the low self-esteem is people who have a problem where they cannot express themselves nicely. And complex superiority is people who don’t want other people know about their weakness. They always cover their weakness, in a way to be other people. And me, I’m people who have that two feeling. But I still can control myself.

So the conclusion is, every people actually have this two feeling. But it depends on themselves. If they can not control themselves, they will get that two feeling continuously. For example, if we get low self-esteem feeling, only us that can motivate our self. So that we will let it go.

But if we don't realize it, whether we want it we will hurt by low self-esteem. If we feel like there is nobody cares about us, we just have to think that not everybody like that. There is still our family, our best friends, and the most important is we have God. If there are others hurting us, don't let them to more hurting us. We have to fight them.

They aren't the best people in this world. There is nobody perfect in this world. Every people have a weakness and excess.

And if we have complex superiority feeling, we have to realize as soon as possible. Because it can harm our self. We will be another person. We will lose our self. we won't recognize our selves.

We always demand the perfection of our selves. Eventually, it will hurt our selves. We will feel tired because we always acting. We lead our selves with lies.

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